Women Who Ask Men Out…

For the first time in the CAFE a group of women came in to celebrate one of their friends engagement. 

Sabrina was glowing and still on cloud nine.  The two and a half carat ring was gorgeous.  She kept holding out her hand showing the girls, “I can’t believe it!” she kept saying.  “So have you set a date yet, one of the girls asked?” “Yes, and that’s why I called all of you together tonight.  I want to ask you to be my bridemaids.  I have already asked Shawna to be my Maid of Honor”.  All six of the girls were excited to be asked and accepted.

With all the glasses in the air, Shawna started her toast with how happy she was for her friend.  “You knew exactly what you wanted in a man and you waited a long time for Mr. Right to come along”, she continued.  “We all wish you the very best with your new life” she said, now crying. “Congratulations!”, they all said while sipping the champagne.  

The girls stayed in the CAFE late.  Telling dating horror stories .  Shawna told her story of the date she just went on.  She asked one of her coworkers whom she was very attracted to out on a date.  The date went well but now he was acting shady and not talking to her at work whenever he saw her.   “You would have thought I slept with him”, she said (everybody laughed).  “His loss”, one of the women said. This sparked up the conversation of should women ask men out on a date.

Chew on this:  What are the advantages (if any) and the disadvantages of asking a man out on a date?  (MEN ARE WELCOMED TO COMMENT).

I’ll be back in the cafe on next Sunday to check out your thoughts…

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The Ex

Now eight months pregnant and holding her belly, my sister Minnie said, “I’m done”! I’ve given this man everything I can give.  I don’t have anything else to give him”.

We walked over to one of the tables that I had already cleaned for the night as she continued.  “He has taken everything from me.  Nine years and I didn’t see him for what he was?  Everyone kept telling me that he was no good. I should have listened”.

“What happened?”, I asked.  “The ex called him again, said she needed money for his son (he had during the affair) but mind you, he has already paid his child support to her for this month.  I’ll be right back, he said and didn’t come home until several hours later.  I’m so sick of him dropping everything we have going on to go to her.  She’s still wearing the engagement ring he gave her a few years ago when they had the affair but when I bring up marriage, he doesn’t even want to talk about it.  I’m not going to put up with it anymore.”  Seeing her a little uncomfortable in her chair, I asked, “Can I get you something”?  “No, I’m gonna go now.”   She got up and again she rubbed her belly.  “This is our third child and he’s still in love with his ex”, she said.  I walked her to the door and hugged her.  “Everything is going to be ok”, I told her hugging her.  “I’ll be at mom’s if you need me”, she said and left.

What a shame I thought.  They had built a wonderful life together.  Both had good jobs, they lived in an upscale neighborhood with nice cars, and they were church going people, he a man of the cloth.  He gave her everything she wanted.  He just didn’t know where to draw the line with his ex who cared for their son.

Chew on this:  Should Minnie leave everything they built together behind?  (MEN ARE WELCOMED TO COMMENT). Leave your comments below.

I’ll be back in the cafe on next Sunday to check out your thoughts…

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He Say….She Say

Catrina brought her best friend to the CAFE to tell her something.  Something that would hurt her friend deeply.  They ordered their food and went to the very last table that was in the back of the CAFE.

“I hate having to do this to you” Catrina told her friend,  “but it’s something that you need to know.”  “What is it?” her friend asked nervously.  “I saw your man with another woman” she said.  “What?!!!” her friend yelled.  “With who? Who was it Catrina?” she asked.  “I don’t know” Catrina said.  It was obvious that her friend was hurt.  “You know what? her friend said.  “He’s gotta go!  I’m done with him!”  She took out her cell to call him.  “Wait! ” Catrina said.  “Calm down before you do something you may regret!”

A WEEK LATER:

Catrina and her friend met at the CAFE again for a quick update.   Her friend arrives a few minutes earlier and sparks up a conversation at the counter while waiting.  Fifteen minutes later, Catrina rushes into the CAFE and points to a table for them to sit.  Catrina didn’t want anything today since she was in a rush and only had a few minutes of lunch left.  “How did things go?” Catrina asked.  “Well of course he says he ain’t been with no one else and that he would never do that to me.  He cares too much about me to hurt me like that:…”And?” Catrina asked.  “And what?” her friend repeated with a smile on her face.  “Are you guys still a couple or did you break up with him?” Catrina asked looking confused at her.  Her friend took a sip of her drink and  then said what Catrina was hoping she wouldn’t say.  “We’re still a couple”, she said.  “Why are you letting him do this to you?” Catrina asked.  “Do what?” her friend said.  “He said he didn’t do it.”  Catrina got up from her seat in disgust.  “Do what you want!” she said. “I warned you.  I gotta get back to work.” And she left the CAFE.

Chew on this:  Should we believe our man or our friend?  (MEN ARE WELCOMED TO COMMENT). Leave your comments below.

I’ll be back in the cafe on next Sunday to check out your thoughts…

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Men Who Are Intimidated By Independent Women

As of July 1, I decided to have open discussion in the CAFE on a monthly basis.  This week we were talking about men who are intimidated by women who are independent.

With a tinge of bitterness a gorgeous young woman who was sitting at one of the front tables stood up to face the women who were sitting in the back of the CAFE.  Her question was this:  “What do men mean when they say they are intimidated by independent women?  Tons of hands stood up in anxiety to answer this question….

A woman stood up and told her experience of how when she was married, her then husband loved her independence before they got married.  Once married, things began to change drastically.  He would try to belittle her by calling her the “B” word whenever there was a disagreement, he would try to cut her down and make her feel like she was nothing and had nothing when in fact it was her that had everything when they married.  Unfortunately the marriage only last a year and a half.

Chew on this:  For women who want to be married, does being independent hurt you?  (MEN ARE WELCOMED TO COMMENT). Leave your comments below.

I’ll be back in the cafe on next Sunday to check out your thoughts…

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