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I’ve been home sick for the most part of this week (I was trying hard to make it in to the CAFE today especially since it was “question of the month” today).
Remember my friend Maya from the post “Why do men cheat on their girlfriends and then propose to them?” Well she was over cooking for me. She brought some groceries and picked up my prescriptions for me. It had been a while since we’ve talked and I was very interested to hear how she was doing. “How’s things going on the dating scene?” I asked. “Not good” she said.
“I’ve been dating someone for six months now. He’s a really good guy. He’s handsome, he has his own business, and his house is off the charts. Everything was going good until he told his boy something I asked him not to tell. His boy’s girlfriend was thinking about aborting her pregnancy and she hasn’t even told him that she was pregnant. I found out through his boys girlfriend (who I’ve become close to) that he told his boy and now things between me and the girlfriend are strained. When I asked him why did he tell his boy, his answer was because he felt his boy had a right to know. Well, that’s a problem for me because I trusted him not to say anything. We’ve been trying to work things out but it’s over. I just can’t trust him!” “You said you love him, you would leave him just like that?” I asked her. “He seems like a great guy and he’s apologized to you over and over. You don’t think you can work it out with him? Good guys are hard to come by” I said. “No”, she said.
Chew on this: Was Maya wrong for sharing her friends secret with her boyfriend? And does Maya have the right to be mad at her boyfriend for sharing the secret with his friend? (MEN ARE WELCOMED TO COMMENT).
I’ll be back in the cafe on next Sunday to check out your thoughts…
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For the first time in the CAFE a group of women came in to celebrate one of their friends engagement.
Sabrina was glowing and still on cloud nine. The two and a half carat ring was gorgeous. She kept holding out her hand showing the girls, “I can’t believe it!” she kept saying. “So have you set a date yet, one of the girls asked?” “Yes, and that’s why I called all of you together tonight. I want to ask you to be my bridemaids. I have already asked Shawna to be my Maid of Honor”. All six of the girls were excited to be asked and accepted.
With all the glasses in the air, Shawna started her toast with how happy she was for her friend. “You knew exactly what you wanted in a man and you waited a long time for Mr. Right to come along”, she continued. “We all wish you the very best with your new life” she said, now crying. “Congratulations!”, they all said while sipping the champagne.
The girls stayed in the CAFE late. Telling dating horror stories . Shawna told her story of the date she just went on. She asked one of her coworkers whom she was very attracted to out on a date. The date went well but now he was acting shady and not talking to her at work whenever he saw her. “You would have thought I slept with him”, she said (everybody laughed). “His loss”, one of the women said. This sparked up the conversation of should women ask men out on a date.
Chew on this: What are the advantages (if any) and the disadvantages of asking a man out on a date? (MEN ARE WELCOMED TO COMMENT).
I’ll be back in the cafe on next Sunday to check out your thoughts…
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Now eight months pregnant and holding her belly, my sister Minnie said, “I’m done”! I’ve given this man everything I can give. I don’t have anything else to give him”.
We walked over to one of the tables that I had already cleaned for the night as she continued. “He has taken everything from me. Nine years and I didn’t see him for what he was? Everyone kept telling me that he was no good. I should have listened”.
“What happened?”, I asked. “The ex called him again, said she needed money for his son (he had during the affair) but mind you, he has already paid his child support to her for this month. I’ll be right back, he said and didn’t come home until several hours later. I’m so sick of him dropping everything we have going on to go to her. She’s still wearing the engagement ring he gave her a few years ago when they had the affair but when I bring up marriage, he doesn’t even want to talk about it. I’m not going to put up with it anymore.” Seeing her a little uncomfortable in her chair, I asked, “Can I get you something”? “No, I’m gonna go now.” She got up and again she rubbed her belly. “This is our third child and he’s still in love with his ex”, she said. I walked her to the door and hugged her. “Everything is going to be ok”, I told her hugging her. “I’ll be at mom’s if you need me”, she said and left.
What a shame I thought. They had built a wonderful life together. Both had good jobs, they lived in an upscale neighborhood with nice cars, and they were church going people, he a man of the cloth. He gave her everything she wanted. He just didn’t know where to draw the line with his ex who cared for their son.
Chew on this: Should Minnie leave everything they built together behind? (MEN ARE WELCOMED TO COMMENT). Leave your comments below.
I’ll be back in the cafe on next Sunday to check out your thoughts…
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Catrina brought her best friend to the CAFE to tell her something. Something that would hurt her friend deeply. They ordered their food and went to the very last table that was in the back of the CAFE.
“I hate having to do this to you” Catrina told her friend, “but it’s something that you need to know.” “What is it?” her friend asked nervously. “I saw your man with another woman” she said. “What?!!!” her friend yelled. “With who? Who was it Catrina?” she asked. “I don’t know” Catrina said. It was obvious that her friend was hurt. “You know what? her friend said. “He’s gotta go! I’m done with him!” She took out her cell to call him. “Wait! ” Catrina said. “Calm down before you do something you may regret!”
A WEEK LATER:
Catrina and her friend met at the CAFE again for a quick update. Her friend arrives a few minutes earlier and sparks up a conversation at the counter while waiting. Fifteen minutes later, Catrina rushes into the CAFE and points to a table for them to sit. Catrina didn’t want anything today since she was in a rush and only had a few minutes of lunch left. “How did things go?” Catrina asked. “Well of course he says he ain’t been with no one else and that he would never do that to me. He cares too much about me to hurt me like that:…”And?” Catrina asked. “And what?” her friend repeated with a smile on her face. “Are you guys still a couple or did you break up with him?” Catrina asked looking confused at her. Her friend took a sip of her drink and then said what Catrina was hoping she wouldn’t say. “We’re still a couple”, she said. “Why are you letting him do this to you?” Catrina asked. “Do what?” her friend said. “He said he didn’t do it.” Catrina got up from her seat in disgust. “Do what you want!” she said. “I warned you. I gotta get back to work.” And she left the CAFE.
Chew on this: Should we believe our man or our friend? (MEN ARE WELCOMED TO COMMENT). Leave your comments below.
I’ll be back in the cafe on next Sunday to check out your thoughts…
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As of July 1, I decided to have open discussion in the CAFE on a monthly basis. This week we were talking about men who are intimidated by women who are independent.
With a tinge of bitterness a gorgeous young woman who was sitting at one of the front tables stood up to face the women who were sitting in the back of the CAFE. Her question was this: “What do men mean when they say they are intimidated by independent women? Tons of hands stood up in anxiety to answer this question….
A woman stood up and told her experience of how when she was married, her then husband loved her independence before they got married. Once married, things began to change drastically. He would try to belittle her by calling her the “B” word whenever there was a disagreement, he would try to cut her down and make her feel like she was nothing and had nothing when in fact it was her that had everything when they married. Unfortunately the marriage only last a year and a half.
Chew on this: For women who want to be married, does being independent hurt you? (MEN ARE WELCOMED TO COMMENT). Leave your comments below.
I’ll be back in the cafe on next Sunday to check out your thoughts…
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Brenda couldn’t wait to see him tonight. She was waiting for him to walk in in any minute now. She ordered her meal and waited anxiously for him. They have not seen each other in nine months because of the distance between them. She lived on the East Coast and he lived on the West Coast. They met nine months ago at a mutual friends engagement party. Now that things were going well (over the phone), they wanted to spend some quality time with each other. Because of their busy work schedules this visit has been in the planning for three months. She planned for them to visit the theatre, the spa, the club and of course church on Sunday. He was so easy-going. “Whatever you want to do is fine with me”, he would always say. She hadn’t talked with him this morning because he would be traveling.
Now it was late and the Cafe was about to close, she kept trying to call him but no answer. After leaving the fifth voice mail message telling him that she was still waiting for him and that she was concerned because she hadn’t heard from him all day, she left broken-hearted. I hoped she made it home safely.
Chew on this: Is it realistic to have a long distance relationship? (MEN ARE WELCOMED TO COMMENT). Leave your comments below.
I’ll be back in the cafe on next Sunday to check out your thoughts…
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Kendra and her mom walked into the cafe just when we were about to close. “Can we grab a quick sandwich?”, she asked me. “Sure”, I said, “What are you having?” She ordered and then sat at one of the tables against the window.
While they ate I started to clean for the night. Kendra was telling her mom about the incident she had with her fiance’s mom. “I don’t think she likes me mom”, she said. “Why not”, her mom asked. “I think she’s prejudice. All her conversations with me or Rob points back to me being a black woman. I’ve talked to Rob about it on several occasions and he keeps saying “Naw, mom’s cool with black people.” “She might be cool with them as long as they are not dating one of her sons”, I told him. But it irks me when she refers to my color. I want to say something to her before it gets out of hand and I just don’t know what to do mom. “It’ll work baby”, her mom said.
Chew on this: Should Kendra speak to her fiance’s mom? (MEN ARE WELCOMED TO COMMENT). Leave your comments below.
I’ll be back in the cafe on next Sunday to check out your thoughts…
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Renee was telling her girls at the table how hard it was to leave her ex because she still loved him but it was something she felt was necessary to do. They met last summer at an event a mutual friend invited them to. Love at first sight, they thought. He was 15 years older than her but they didn’t seem to mind the big age difference at all. Her son from a previous relationship, liked him too. She was established with her own job, her own car, her own apartment and was doing financially ok. That’s why it was a shock to everyone around her when she announced that she was moving in with Joe after only a few months of dating. Everything was ok for the first few months and then things drastically changed. Renee and her son were now walking on eggshells. She was helping him with all the bills and his outstanding debt he incurred before they met. Renee’s son was feeling isolated. He was subjected to his bedroom (even when company visited) except for bathing, eating or going out. Renee did leave but not without losing her identity, lots of money, her car, her swag, and her relationship with family members. It had seemed the more she gave up the more he loved her……
Lena who was also sitting at the table, was 20 years older than the man she was in a relationship with, Mike. Mike was just three years older than Lena’s son. They have been dating for a few months and was considering living together but, Lena’s family (especially her son) was outraged. Lena could not see that she was giving up too much to be with this young man. Once he moved in with her, she was going to buy him a car and pay for him to go to college. She was already buying him designer clothes, jewelry, and lending him hugh amounts of cash. Although, he played the disappearing act a lot, Lena said that he was the best thing that ever happened to her. He made her feel young, vibrant, and needed. It didn’t seem like Lena was going to get out of this relationship anytime soon…
Chew on this: Does age matter? (MEN ARE WELCOMED TO COMMENT). Leave your comments below.
I’ll be back in the cafe on next Sunday to check out your thoughts…
Thank you for visiting The Single Ladies Cafe where we sugarcoat food not love and please send your questions or topics to singleladiescafe@aol.com.
Vicky was really nervous about meeting her friend tonight. She specifically chose the CAFE because of it’s chic environment. Somehow it made her feel that the bad news she was going to tell her friend would make the discussion ok.
Her friend dated her high school sweetheart for years. In the beginning they were inseparable and very compatible. They shared a lot of good times as well as bad times. They would constantly break up and then make up over a period of ten years. They never married but share one child. She is now engaged to an awesome guy and is planning a wedding for this coming June.
She, her ex, and I all have been friends since high school and now I am having a baby with her ex. I really respect our friendship and want her to know who the baby’s father really is.
“Cathy”, I waved her over to where I was sitting. She was carrying a huge pink, blue, yellow, and green bag with balloons on it. “A gift for the baby”, she said when she handed the bag to me. She was elated to be the baby’s Godmother. I am hoping that this won’t end our friendship of many years.
Chew on this: Is it ever ok to date your friends ex? (MEN ARE WELCOMED TO COMMENT). Leave your comments below.
I’ll be back in the cafe on next Sunday to check out your thoughts…
Thank you for visiting The Single Ladies Cafe where we sugarcoat food not love and please send your questions or topics to singleladiescafe@aol.com.
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